Whoever does not love abides in death.
1 John 3:14
Love commences with Jesus and continues through Him. Your capacity to love is determined by your commitment to Christ. It is through the indwelling love of God that you can love those who do not love you. Do you love the unlovely, ungrateful, and unruly? We cannot look at people as hindrances or helpers. It does not matter how people relate to us. Reflected love is based on how God relates to us. Those who do not reflect the love of God now do not end up with God.
Pray to love truly.